Writing
I write about the invisible systems shaping how we think, how we love, how we work, and how we build our lives — and what shifts when we finally see them. Sometimes that's an essay about identity. Sometimes it's about parenting, or grappling with a belief system, or why the thing you've been calling a character flaw is actually an adaptation that made sense at the time.
I'm working on a book called They Were Wrong About You. The essays below are some of the thinking that led there.
Recent essays
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First Hygge. Now Glad I Deg.
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AI Doesn't Have a Hallucination Problem. Humans have a Clarity Challenge.
I told AI I have ADHD. Within a few days, every response came back simplified, careful, almost condescending — and the problem wasn't AI. It was the label I'd handed it.
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I'm Still Processing What Happened Last Night
I grew up where strong feelings were suspect. Last night everything was alive — sink-your-teeth-into-it, holy-shit-I-love-being-alive kind of alive — and it wasn't in a curated Starbucks.
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You Never Failed at a Habit
You've never failed at a habit. The habits failed you — they were built for someone else, and the fix is simpler than anything you've tried.
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You Don't Have a Boundary Problem. You Have a Belonging Problem.
My problem was never speaking up. It was what happened after — the tape that would start replaying every word for hours, waiting for a signal that I still belonged.
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Love Taught You to Disappear
You're not selfish. You're the opposite — the one who shows up, adjusts, accommodates, makes it work. You're exhausted from it, and you're still doing it, because that's what love looks like. And it's not working.